The ability to say no is almost (but not quite) the most powerful tool in your arsenal.
Every month, every week, every day, every hour I get littered with request to participate in stuff.
“Chris can you help me with X”?
“Chris would you mind doing Y?”
“Chris I know we don’t know each other but I was hoping you might…”
Of course, beyond that are the many spam requests, emails and submissions I get on a daily basis – but let’s ignore them for the moment.
The truth is that I say no to the vast majority of things. In doing that, I realise that sometimes I’m passing up potentially great opportunities.
But when I do, I know that I leave myself margin to say “yes” to the things that matter to me more:
- going for a ride with me kids
- helping contribute to a book compilation by a friend
- painting my daughter’s room
- learning new skills
- helping lawyers with digital marketing
The list goes
Without the no, I can’t say yes to anything – because I’m already booked up.
Because with the no, come all the yesses.
And the yesses are what make us.